Comments on: Sometimes I Hate This

By: Steve Zlick

Steve Zlick — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:21:53 +0000

So is Living With Wolves still available for your Indian name, or does the studio own all alternatives that might be trademark infringement?

I’m glad at least Will is feeding the Love Wolf with salmony goodness. Please feed the Love Wolf a little more yourself. It may mean less good-fight works from the Anger Wolf, but I care about you more than your good cause.

By: IT

IT — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 03:27:47 +0000

I too have been fighting the anger, all these months and more since PropH8 passed. As you point out, it’s necessary anger, but it has at times gotten too far away from me. I’m trying to get back to the day to day reality of life and not let it ALL be about that ALL the time. But there is so much to be done….

By: Matthew

Matthew — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:44:56 +0000

This is really beautiful. My own journey of internalized homophobia was that I once believed this, and even when I first came out, I believed it, and tried to convince myself and others that I would not be like all those “other” gay people that have sex with boys. Videos like this really make a difference. I remember when I first got educated about this stuff. I felt so ashamed, angry at myself and others who taught me this stuff. I also felt guilt at ever having thought such crap.

By: ChadSF

ChadSF — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:04:30 +0000

I am new to your blog but not new to the various work that you’ve done in the past. Your latest video was simply amazing and filled with facts that is hard to deny, not that it hinders our opponents from saying what they say about us. I can see where you find yourself sometimes hating the stuff you do, especially when it comes to issues like this. Children are used used so much in this, a lot of it surfaced during the Prop 8 trials here in San Francisco.
Just like most commenters here, I also find myself “feeding that angry wolf” inside me but I have a husband that keeps me at bay. It’s hard, I know it is and I totally understand your predicament. But you are doing good work by putting things into perspective and exposing the truth behind these vile allegations.
We all have our way of showing our bravery, be it in this format or being called to testify against a group that stripped you of your rights. I applaud and admire you for all the work and visibility you’ve done. I would like to cheer you on for the upcoming AIDS/LifeCycle.
I’ll be donating to you.

By: Tre

Tre — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 23:36:37 +0000

Well said. I find that I too, feed the wrong wolf, on occasion. It’s hard not to. In this day and age, communication and sensationalism are partners. You have instant access to the most vile, bigoted asshats and the filth they spew. Years ago, before the “internets” you’d rarely hear such horrific things being said about the LBGT community to the extent and frequency that we hear today. But out of that comes the ability to discuss the other side in on-line forums, blogs, etc.

Staying connected to friends, family and co-workers who know in their heart that our only agenda is to call out the lies, bigotry and hatred forced down the collective throats of the general public, is the best way to feed the good wolf.

By: Mrs. Chili

Mrs. Chili — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 20:30:11 +0000

I think that the key to living with the wolves is in finding that balance. We cannot be – nor should we be, I think – just one or the other.

Keep working; even though it may feel like it sometimes, you’re so not in this alone.

By: ilyanna

ilyanna — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:46:58 +0000

Thank you very much for making this video – and all the others – despite the pain it causes. Please know that your anger really DOES make a difference. A friend in SF linked to your movie and posted it on Facebook, and I loved it and linked to it, and hopefully some of my homophobic friends will learn from it, and others will link, etc. Presenting facts the way you do really CAN change even the most thoughtless, homophobic person. My husband was, well, misguided when we met. Years of discussion and confrontation (with rational, fact-based studies like yours to back me up) between us has changed him. The other day we were discussing some of the behaviors of our seven year old son, and I said something along the lines of “he may be gay.” My husband — who once believed that gays were pedophiles and predators — said “that’s okay. He’s a good kid and I love him no matter what.” So your work really IS making a difference. I hope that knowledge can help you feed the “good” wolf. Peace be upon you.

By: Andy

Andy — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:46:31 +0000

This post beautifully encapsulates so much of what I have been feeling and experiencing over the past several years. I have gotten to the point where I can’t even bring myself to read, say, Pam’s House Blend (or other LGBT blogs) because it’s just one rage-provoking post after another (I used to refer to the DC Blade and the SF gay rags as the “Journal of Gay Bashing” for the same reason). As a consequence of this and of moving out of the bar scene and into a committed relationship, I have largely cut myself off from the LGBT community. Your post is a poignant reminder, even in this age of supposed cultural integration, of the power of shared experience. Thank you for giving it voice.

By: Daniel

Daniel — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:51:44 +0000

Thank You!!!

By: tavdy79

tavdy79 — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 01:08:08 +0000

The good wolf/bad wolf story really hits home with me. I’m both queer and have a disability, and my parents are passive-aggressive homophobes, so I have a lot of stuff feeding that angry wolf, whether I like it or not. I need to get feeding that joyful wolf more often than I do.