Some straight people like to search for the real reason gays want to marry:
- We’re just out for benefits.
- We’re trying to legislate acceptance.
- We want to destroy marriage entirely.
Endless theories. They rarely wonder about other straights, though. Young or not, fertile or not, wanting kids or not, it doesn’t matter. A straight couple in love wants to make a lifetime commitment, so of course they want to marry.
That’s right — of course.
So I have to ask them: what makes you wonder why we want the same thing? We love our partners just as you do. Of course we want to marry. Is that not good enough? Do you need more?
Okay then. Come closer. Listen carefully.
I’ll tell you the real, secret, and true reason we want to marry. Here it comes:
BECAUSE YOU TAUGHT US TO.
From the day we were born, you taught us the most important thing in life is finding someone you can love and who will love you back.
You taught us that when we find this person, we should work hard to build the love, nurture the bond, treasure the commitment.
You taught us to promise our partner that we are here to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish from this day forward until death do us part.
You taught us to want marriage.
You taught us through our parents, our relatives, our friends. You taught us through books and movies and TV. You taught us in Sunday school, catechism class, and Hebrew school.
You taught us this. You have only yourselves to blame.
So stop asking for the real reason. It’s insulting. We want it because we’re human beings. We want it because we love the way you love. We want it because you taught us to.
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Outstanding post. It really is just that simple — if one actually stops to think about it.
There’s some truth to the second.
are so fanned
Love the way your mind works. You need to post more often and get your work linked out to as many other sites as possible. I am a big fan!
Simple is often best. One of your best, Rob.
Thank you – well said.
OK, on this post I disagree for once. My parents’ marriage fell apart when I was a kid and my mom would not let me utter the word marriage without telling me you were better off staying as far away as possible from it, not to mention how unnecessary being in a relationship is.
I want to get married. I don’t care about what it makes other people think, I don’t care about how my family feels. I have read the list of the rights and responsibilities you do not have without a marriage license. That list is the only reason I want to get married, and the reason I tell all of my friends about the things they would be risking were they in a permanent relationship and unmarried.
GREAT post. I don’t know why THEY seems so unable to understand that we love our partners as much as they do!
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